Before learning how to infuse positive thinking in your life you need to first figure out whether or not you are being a negative thinker at all. Are you one of those people who think invisibility is the best superpower because people can’t judge what they can’t see?If someone cancels a plan, your first instinct is to think they don’t want to spend time with you. If you often think like this then you’re a negative thinker.
You often hide yourself as a realist but that’s not it, when your negative thoughts are supported by facts you become a realist and when they are not you say you are preparing yourself for the worst outcome. But the fact is you are just being negative about yourself.
The truth is nobody is judging, you are assuming what they think. Being your own worst critique is your life’s motto. You think, being harsh to yourself is self-preservation; nobody can hurt you if you don’t hurt yourself. Imagine saying things that you say about yourself, being said about your loved ones. Isn’t that the meanest thing a person can say to others?
I can list various health reasons as to why you should be thinking positively, but if you think negatively and you know that you do, that is a reason enough to start treating yourself better.
15 Easy Ways You Can Introduce Positive Thinking in Your Life
Here are 15 best ways you can introduce positive thinking in your life:
1. Have a ‘MORNING ROUTINE’
Try to create a morning routine for yourself that suits your work and personal life’s requirement. Having a morning routine gives your day a structure. And to wake up doing things that are practically and emotionally right for you, helps you lead a good day. Follow some health care routine and boost up yourself, this brings positivity.
2. Surround yourself with ‘POSITIVE AFFIRMATION’
Affirmation may sound cheesy but they do work, try to have self-affirmative posters around your personal space. Even in your worst days when you would lay your eyes upon them, they’ll remind you to be kind to yourself.
Yes, posters, relax it won’t make you look like a college student, you can have them framed or if you are too worried about your decor then you can hang them in your closet. But have them where you would see them every day.
3. Take ‘CREDIT’
Often due to humility or spirituality, we tend to give credit to our successes to god and mentors. As a negative person you never fail to assign blame on yourselves when anything goes wrong, so it’s also important for you to give yourself credit. Give yourself credit for your successes no matter how big or small they are, you’ve earned it.
It will not develop a sense of the attitude of ego, this automatically builds confidence and a confident person always remains positive because he believes that he has a solution and can seek out any of his problems.
4. Try to Avoid Reaching to ‘EXTREME CONCLUSIONS’
For you the world is either black or white, you’ve made one little mistake now you are the worst person, one little set back in career and everything is ruined, you had an argument with a friend now that relationship is over. It does not work like that, the world is filled with colours there are blues, reds, greys, and greens so many different shades, and not every situation needs to end with extreme outcomes.
When you see yourself going for extreme outcomes, try to find other shades of those possible outcomes. It will take away your negativity and give you other options to root for.
Another example is, sometimes suddenly people stop talking to you. So, it does not mean they lost interest or something else. There can be many reasons behind, so rather blaming yourself or concluding anything, it’s better to talk to them.
5. Start taking ‘RESPONSIBILITY’ for your actions
Your tendency to see extremes in every situation keeps you from taking responsibility for your actions. When situations get a little out of hand you throw in the towel and blame yourself for always messing up. You need to stop doing that; there are probably 9 out of 10 tasks that you performed adequately and that one mistake that happened caused the outcome to be negative.
You need to take responsibility for that one mistake and credit for 9 well-executed tasks, only that way you can learn from that one mistake. Because you constantly beat yourself down, the victim’s feeling always stays within you. Start taking responsibility for your actions, right or wrong you did it. Once you start taking responsibility, you’ll be able to move past it.
6. ‘FORGIVE’ Yourself
A mistake happens, instead of humiliating yourself over and over again, you need to forgive yourself. Forgiveness is the first step for you to stop emotionally bullying yourself. What’s in the past is in the past. Accept it, learn from it, and never repeat it but first and foremost forgive yourself for it.
7. Talk about your ‘TROUBLES’
Keeping a journal of daily activity has helped many peoples. If you don’t have time to write every day you can do a weekly journal or best do voice logs. I find it helpful to talk things out. Best case scenario, if you have a friend or partner who can listen to you and support you. If not talk out loud, keeping things inside your head magnifies them.
Talking it out loud has helped me; I often feel when I talk about my problems to someone or just while driving, I am able to come up with various solutions for it on my own.
8. Try to ‘MEDITATE’ for a Minute or Two
Give yourself some time in peace, not thinking about any problem, just to calm your mind. Meditation is the best way to achieve that, it gives you time to just be you, away from all the negative voices inside your head. If you have never meditated before you can join yoga classes or explore YouTube for instructional videos. I find meditation hard, so I try to focus on music like Mozart’s 40th symphony, you can also use pictures. The point is to calm your mind and allow your brain to relax for a few minutes.
9. Don’t ‘TREAT’ yourself the Way you wouldn’t Treat Others
Start writing down the criticism you pass on yourself, you will see you are treating yourself like you wouldn’t treat your worst enemy. You think because you’re not saying these things out loud or you are saying it as a joke, they are less harmful to your self-worth, is not true. Your words matter, whether they are audible or not, what you are saying to yourself is hurting your productivity.
10. ‘TRY’ not to take everything personally
Your habit of taking everything personally is doing you more damage than you notice. Not everything is about you, if someone said no to your idea, it doesn’t have to mean that your idea was bad, it could also mean that somebody else’s idea was better. Try to see other reasons for people’s actions, a reason that does not involve you.
11. ‘AVOID’ Microscopic View
When your problem begins to seem enormous, that you feel you can never solve them; it’s good to step out of it for a minute. Try to evaluate how big your problem is when compared to other people’s problems. People who don’t have enough food to provide for their kids, they don’t have proper shades for the rainy season. Try to think whether your problem is still enormous or it’s just an obstacle, that with the time you can either learn to jump over or workaround.
12. Try to ‘INFUSE’ your Entertainment with Realistic Representations
In the modern world, everyone on social media is living their best lives; every character in your favorite television show is either good or bad. The good characters are always too good to be true, that you can’t see yourself in them.
Right representation is more important than we realize when we see people like us on our television screens or on social media; people who make mistakes, who are little silly, and have a whole lot of imperfection we learn to allow ourselves to be imperfect. Try not to follow people who make you feel bad about yourself and your life.
13. ‘SURROUND’ Yourself with People who Think Positive
Whom you are spending time with, has a great influence on your personality. Try to surround yourself with people who have a positive attitude towards life. Being around positive people will help you stay motivated for this transition from your way of thinking.
If your partner or close friends are also negative thinkers then motivate them to join you in your efforts to think positively. Share the experiences and difficulties that you are facing because of negative thinking. Having someone to share this transition will be a great experience for your relationship.
14. Step ‘OUTSIDE’
Going outdoors always helps; if you work indoors try to squeeze some time during your lunch hours to step outside. Go out to a park or rooftop, whatever open area is around you. If you can, try to plan at least one trip every month or a short weekend drive sort of. Being with nature can really help you get away from all the negativity you are bestowing upon yourself.
15. ‘PLAN’ for Future
Often negative thinking makes a person short-sighted, and they can’t see past this huge obstacle that they have in front of them. It would put things in the right perspective if you try to plan for the future.
If you have time, work on a vision board for yourself. If you are struggling in one aspect of your life and negative thinking is overpowering you, it will help you to see that you are achieving all other goals that you set for yourself.
Positive thinking is a choice that you have already made for yourself, that is why you are here. You have plenty to be grateful for, always remember that. You don’t have only one shot at it, you can try and try and eventually learn to be kind to yourself and people around you. It won’t happen overnight, it’s a process that you have already started when you decided to be positive. All left now, is for you to be determined and practice positive thinking every day, forever. Good luck with your journey.