Life is beautiful and we all get it only once so, all of us want to make it best. Sometimes life plays seesaw and we feel up and down simultaneously. But the way we celebrate our achievements we should also celebrate our down because they work as experience in our life and makes us strong and adds courage.
How so ever rich or poor you are, all of us face different problems at different phases of life. But sometimes these bad days make a different mark on our memory and it becomes difficult for us to forget it. I have discussed some of the best ways to get rid of these kinds of memories. Yes, it is not easy to forget things easily but not even impossible. Although your birth was one of the best feelings for your parents but do, they celebrate this every day even today? The answer is no, so why to moan on the same problem again and again. It is Hippocampus a part of the brain which is responsible for remembering various things.
As we know the seven deadly sins of life, similarly, there are “The Seven Sins of Memory: How the Mind Forgets and Remembers” which is a book by Daniel Schacter, who is a memory researcher and has very well described the human tendency and the seven sins which provokes us to either remember or forget things.
Actually, any action is an outcome of our own reaction. In his book, he has discriminated memory into seven sins or general reactions. These sins are –
Transience, Absent-Mindedness, Blocking, Misattribution, Suggestibility, Bias, Persistence
From the seven some are responsible for memories as they are felt when a person fails to remember things like any information, or any event like an anniversary, birthdays, etc. And some of them are responsible for memories of the day to day life and silly facts.
7 Easy Steps to Forget Things Forever that Bothers You /How to Forget about Something that Bothers You
Apart from the detailed information about forgetting things, I have mentioned some best but easy ways to forget things easily. They will help you to analyze your problem and will help you to think practically and this will automatically help you to forget them.
- Don’t Give Up
We always realize after we make a mistake and it gets too late to improve it and it turns into a failure or a black day in our life. We feel very difficult to forget it and we keep on thinking about it.
Now let’s talk about achievements. I am discussing one of my achievements, as when I was in my KG, I got a prize for eating more buns in very less time, and I also got a certificate and a medal too and I still have them. I was very happy that day because it was an achievement and I was on the top floor. But today the scenario is I am a chubby girl and whenever someone asks me about the medal, I feel the shame of explaining about the eating competition. The same achievement does not mean anymore for me. Similarly, it is not always possible that whatever happened to you is going to be a bad experience for you forever.
It is life and it will show you all, some of us lose our parents at a very early age and some very late. The truth is they have to go, no one lives forever with us. Similarly, problems are not eternal. They last only for some time and leave a bad memory for you. Make yourself strong and always remember “Things Happen for a Reason”. If you fail it is an alert that your preparation was not up to the mark.
Some of us complain that they have tried more than 5 times, so the only option left is to think of your bad days and moan on them. But can you survive like that, the answer is quite simple ‘No’. So, rather than giving up just go and give yourself one more chance.
- Have a Schedule
After a bad day, the very first thing you should do is, make a new schedule and follow it thoroughly. It is possible that you might be living alone, still, you have lots of work like cooking, cleaning and etc. The more you will keep yourself busy the more easily you can forget things. So, keep doing different things and this will really help you.
Don’t spend time thinking because whenever you will be free it will automatically revert you towards your memories. Watch TV, listen to FM, talk to your friends, play games, give some time for your hobby. All this will keep you busy and will make you easy to forget things.
There is an Indian holy book Bhagwat Gita, it is a belief that it has a solution for all types of human problems. Just read it once and it will definitely help you, it is also available online in many languages. Believe me, it really helps because I have tried.
- Makeup your Mind
Everything takes time so don’t get frustrated make up your mind. You can show the other story behind the screen. As everything has two faces and you can show the other one.
For example, there was a science competition and the winner would be sent to NASA for a free trip. And you decided to take part in it. You can get many other opportunities like this. But the main thing is how you react. Suppose you prepared well, still lost the award. So, what to do now?
It is quite simple, ask yourself, as the questions asked in the competition were of your level? Did you cover those portions? Did you have any idea about the pattern?
If most of your answers are “Yes”, then you are quite lucky because you have an idea about it and you should definitely prepare for next year’s competition. If it is a “No” then you should be happy that it was totally out of your reach and start your preparation in a different way.
These things will help you to forget what so ever happened to you, it is applicable in multiple ways. Like any mishap or a bad day. What you have to do is just ask questions and in this way, things will get clear. Yes, it is difficult to forget anything instantly, but once when you will get a proper answer to your questions, it will become easy to forget.
Meditation is something that sounds like oh hello I am ok and why should I need that? But the thing is most of us practice only some part of meditation and feel like it’s ok. Meditation helps you to remove all kinds of toxic thoughts and helps you to develop a new sense of life.
We are born to live and while covering the journey between life and death, we face many ups and downs. The holy Bhagwat Gita describes the way of living and how a person should react to his success and failures. Good memories are the success and of course, the bad one is the failure. A person either facing success or failure should react in the same way and should not get overjoyed or extremely sad, but it is human nature and one can only do this when they practice medication on regular basis. To follow all the steps of one by one. This brings balance in your life and changes the way of thinking and one can also easily overcome their problems and live a normal life.
- Train your Brain
Always train your mind, for example, there is a story;
Once a man went to an ashrama and asked a saint. Sir, I want to get rid of my problems as they follow me where ever I go and they won’t leave me. I feel depressed because of them and my problems rule my mind and I need your help. Please take me out of this situation.
The saint smiled and asked the man to climb on the tree and hang from the branch with the help of hands. The man went and hanged; he was feeling the tension in his hands. Then the saint asked to leave the branch and he came on the ground, as it was not very high. And then the saint asked, who was in your hands and who left you? The man said the branches were in my hands and I was catching them and further left them.
Similarly, we are self-carry our problems, they won’t come with us until we take them. So, try to avoid them and keep memories away. We continuously keep on thinking about them and exaggerate the matter. Till the day you will not decide to move on, no one can take you out. So, train your brain to move on and this will definitely help you to forget things easily.
- Try Some Change
It is a human tendency that we get bore of the same daily routine. So, it is a very good idea to have some change in your routine, wardrobe, room color, and sitting arrangements. By doing such small changes you can really feel different and it will distract you and is really helpful in forgetting things easily. Choose bright colors because they add positivity, either it is your dress or wall paint. Bright colors are always the best.
- Do not Repeat
The way we never get excited about the same achievement again and again, why one should be sad and cry on the same bad feeling.
For example, I am a university topper and I don’t have words to express that feeling when I heard the news and lived the best day that was my convocation. It was a fabulous day no doubt, but I don’t feel the same happiness today. So, when I don’t celebrate or remember my achievement every day then why should I remember my pains or a bad day. Always learn from bad days and analyze it and do not repeat the mistake.
Disadvantages of Having Bad Memories in Memory
- They hinder your progress, as you keep on thinking the same thing again and again and do not able to do anything new.
- Keep you a step back because if you are a student and got fewer marks in a test and if you keep on thinking of the same thing you will not able to prepare for upcoming exams and your friends will progress because they will prepare before you.
- You can lose a better opportunity; we should learn from failures and keep on preparing for the future. If your life is a cricket field then an opportunity is like a ball and no fielder knows when he has to catch it. So, if you waste time in bad memories, you can lose many other opportunities.
- Affects your health, there is a very great saying by Sant Kabir Das Ji in Hindi; “Anxiety affects your knowledge, whereas suffering (overthinking) reduces your health, sins take away Lakshmi, said saint Kabir”.
- Overthinking can cause depression and this can lead to suicidal thoughts.
Advantages of Forgetting Bad Things/Bad Memories from Your Memory
God knows all, that’s why he made a memory which automatically forgets things after a certain time. It is sometimes very necessary to succeed in life and move forward. There are many stories of success, which got possible just after forgetting bad memories. Look here:
- Mark Zuckerberg faced lots of failures in his life but he never stopped learning from those failures and then finally his name is a brand itself today. So, was it a good decision or a bad one? Similarly, there are many other names who never got success in legacy, they made it, just after forgetting the bad things and carrying the lessons.
- The founder of Alibaba, Jack Ma was such a big loser, and he failed more than 10 times, still, he kept his bad days and its memories aside and woke up with new enthusiasm. Just search and scroll on the internet and you will get thousands of people who had more though time than you, still they forgot things and moved forward. It is good in many ways.
- It makes you strong, and by chance, if you face the same situation again you will not break, and it will make you strong and gives strength to your mind. Bad memories are painful but they teach us a lot. So, it’s better not to spoil your precious time in pondering about bad things, instead invest that time in your future plans.
- In research, it has been found that we feel better and our brain works in a better way when we remove negative things from it. So, if you want your brain to function properly, it’s better to don’t think of those things.
- Bad memories hinder the brain to function properly and this also affects your work and performance. Why spoil your future because of a mishap or a bad memory? Move on and distance yourself from this kind of thought.
You are a complete person and no one can make you sad or make you cry until you will not allow yourself to do so. Be strong and learn how to deal with your problems? We all face different kinds of problems and we learn from them. When a child learns walking, he falls more than 100 times and sometimes also gets hurt, still, they stand and want to walk again. Be a child in your life and believe me you will start enjoying your life and will forget all your pain and worries. Stay healthy and happy because a healthy body carries a healthy brain and this will definitely help you. Stay tuned to health helical for more interesting articles.